"The Man in the Arena"

"The Man in the Arena"

- Excerpt from the speech "Citizen In A Republic"

"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat."

- Theodore Roosevelt on April 23rd, 1910 in Sorbonne, Paris.

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let's be adventurers

How about we go into an airport and buy tickets for a random flight?
Or throw a dart at a map and go wherever the hell it lands.

Perhaps we could live in a pent house in Paris.
And go on a midnight stroll in Champs-Élysées,
and walk in the alley where great artists have walked.
Talk. Walk. Drink wine.
And absorb quietly at "The Louvre."

And how about that road-trip we always talked about.
Drive across Spain like a real Spaniard.
Listen to Catalan guitar.
Attend a masquerade.
Be-friend a complete stranger.
Bade goodbye without exchanging whereabouts.

Let's go to Sydney.
Visit 42-Wallby way asking for Mr. P. Sherman.
The place where they found Nemo.
Because Nemo - I LOVE.

Night at the beach in Maldives.
Send message in a bottle and hope it sails far.
Eat that exotic food.
and drink from a coconut.

Darling, let's be fluent in foreign languages.
Experience zero gravity.
And have a silly sting fight.
How about sailing across the world-
and break a world record.
Learn to tap dance.
Visit Japan.
Visit Jamaica.
Sistine Chapel perhaps.
Hike to Machu Picchu.
Dance in the Rio carnival.
Attend "Kings of Leon" and "30 Seconds to Mars" concert.
And see the "Northern Light" - its like circus in the sky.

Or something simple maybe-
Like write something in a wet cement.
Smash a watermelon and start a melon fight.
Rooftop picnic.
And sleeping under the stars.
Hike the nearest hill-
and stay at the top quietly for hours.
Collect books and build a library one day-
so tall that you need a ladder to reach the top shelf.
Buy prayer flags in all colors.

Re-unite with everyone you love.
hug them tight before saying goodbye.

Love, let's be adventurers.
#BucketList
#WanderLust

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Never apologize for selfies. NEVER.

Because its been around since centuries. Great creative minds do it. Why shouldn't we?

One brilliant IDEA, "The Guest Writer." The thought had passed my mind, but I let it pass one too many times. But there are exceptions. This time its my cousin (family before all) who came up with this "I empathize with you" worthy post. But that's not all. I am sharing this because it brought back memories I knew I had been missing all along. So here it is for your reading pleasure. My advice - find your 'disc' pencil and let your dream soar high up (and beyond).

Aastha Shrestha

THAT PENCIL...

     Yesterday I was taking the trash out of my room and something caught my eye in the dustbin, a small, white 'disc' pencil. It took me back to when it all started, my dream of being a writer someday. I took it out from there, with a smile on my face and a heart filled with immense joy and frustration how childhood dreams slowly faded away like the faint vanilla smell of my favorite candles..

     I remember being as passionate about reading as I was about writing or dancing.

     It is surprising how that little pencil made me want to be that child again, that girl with those wide shiny eyes, who was always looking for another book she wanted to read, her favourite pencil packed in her bag along with a spiral notepad, wearing her dancing shoes and her dance moves always ready in her head..

     It sure is a funny feeling when all that you ever thought you would do when you grow up don't match your reality and you name it your hobbies now.

     As you see a child now, their little eyes never stop shining.. And their little hands never stop pointing at things that catches their eyes..

     They're always wishing for a future they may or may not be a part of.. 

     And even though circumstances didn't allow us to be who we dreamt, people like you and me should still make sure they dream.. 

     As for me, little things like that pencil will continue to light the long-lost fire in my 'eager but passionless' eyes.

They'll always leave me thinking.
May be..
I'll always be that 'little girl' in the back of my mind..

- Aastha Shrestha.

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Such different lives we live.

(turns the radio on)
I fiddle the knob of the radio.
Roam the dial for the distant sounds -
on the short and long wavelengths.
Stretch the antenna,
that towers high above my head.
Strange whispering.
Hiss and Hoosh.
Rising of the ocean.
Falling of a distant tree.
Dit dit and Dot dot.
Monks chanting vespers.
Booming of a Big Ben.
Lovers kissing.
Kingdoms falling.
Children laughing their heart's content.
Woes of mother over her dead child.
Bullets, bombs and missiles.
Stories.
Voices.
Songs.
Plays.
BBC.
Life...

Such different lives we live.
Wish I could live them all.
(turns the radio off)
#shyless

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rules

You can. You can't.
There are so many rules you know. 
There were. I grew up with them.
There were simple ones.
Clean shoes and Neat hair.
Ironed shirt and Good manners.
Those were easy ones.
And then there were other kinds.
Do not cross legs while you sit they said. Boys don't do that.
There are rules to be a boy.
They don't cross legs. I didn't. I don't.
When I did in the solitude of my room. I quickly reverted and obeyed rules.
You can't have a hand gestures.
You can't cry.
As they famously put it, "boys don't cry."
You talk a certain way not because you feel like it,
but that was what asked of you.
You obeyed them just like I did.
No questions asked no answers given.
I showed up when the neighbor that I hated died.
I mourned externally but beautifully.
That shows how refined I am they said.
I was a child. I believed.
I mourned.
Half-heartedly but beautifully.
I still hated him. I still do.
Drink beer they said.
Only a child drinks a yellow and red thing called juice.
Beer - did it make them men?
It was bitter when I first tasted it.
But oh'boy did I convince them how I liked it.
Dammit! I drank more.
CHEERS I said. I am not a child anymore.
I am a man.
And that is the true aspiration - being the "idea of man."
The concept.
"Idea of man" but not a human that is important.
Ideal man or woman not a human.
Men don't like reading. They like football.
Anything other than that is for sissies. Yes they have a name for it.
They have other names,
- fat, ugly, weird and bunch of others.
They aren't who they are supposed to be.
It's a crime. Social suicide.
They need to be slim, beautiful, popular.
Yes, popular. That's the word.
They won't survive otherwise. Not a chance.
Unspoken rules.
The End.
The Beginning.

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until life responds back...

     "And above all else, remember : Life is infinitely more awesome than what you see on a postcards and Facebook photos." With this I ended the conversation with the friend who was mulling over the fact that he feels trapped and that life is just not shaping up the way he wanted. Sure, we've all had the moments of crisis. We've all done considerable soul searching and panicked. But it is easy to forget how perfectly life works out. When you are down, you believe that things never work in your favor. But if you look back, you see that, in many cases, things happened exactly the way they needed to be.

     My friend's brother just travelled all the way across the globe to Brazil. Took ample pictures with Cristo Redentor, walked on the sandy shores of Copacabana. Posted around 200 pictures (seriously!!!) on Facebook just to make sure everyone knows he made it there. It was both of their dreams to go there. And now that his brother made it there, gives the considerable reasons to get some mini pangs in his heart. I understand the feeling completely. I mean, if life had been as I imagined it to be I'd have travelled half the globe by now. Not to mention how incredibly filthy rich I thought I'd be by this time. We've all got the word for it, "DREAMS." And simply because its not happening now doesn't mean it won't happen ever. Sometimes we eye the grass on the other side of the fence so much so that we forget and ignore the green pastures under our feet. And pastures aren't bad either. My friend, still young, has done pretty good job as well - he's got a decent job, steady relation (5 years is good), travelled a lot (and sure Brazil is not too far). Sometimes, we just need to butt our head against the wall and come back to our senses. For all I know his brother is stalking my friend's Facebook and feeling bad over tons of stuff he's missing out on (including the friend like me, yay)! So dear blog buds don't you dare to forget that the  life is infinitely more awesome than what you see on a postcards and Facebook photos. Keep dreaming until life responds and gives you a grizzly hug. Stay insanely happy.

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revenge is ice-cream :P

If revenge is sweet, and revenge is best served cold, am I correct in presuming that revenge is ice-cream? #google'd thought.

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this too shall pass*

     I tend to talk upbeat. I try to talk positive. And dear readers, get real that doesn't mean that I'm upbeat and positive 27 X 7. Whenever negative emotions wraps me in its bubble, I handle it in the only way I can; by AVOIDING IT. I've, often times, mentally bookmarked that in life, "YOU NEED TO FAKE IT UNTIL YOU MAKE IT." But can we really convince ourselves that we're happy when we aren't. Hence, I propose a new theory, "feeling positive is lot more important than being positive." Light, white, love, saint these words exists only because of their opposites dark, black, hate, devil. Think about it; you hate someone and that makes the people you love that much meaningful. Saints are blissful because of devils (not that am suggesting love-hate, saint-devil are interdependent). So the question lingers how do we deal with negatives?
     While ago I had asked a similar question (in one of my many blog posts) and I had answered myself, "get distractions." Distractions as in meet new friends, YouTube funny videos, blah blah blah. But here's the catch... they are merely distractions after all and thus, the pressing matter of heart still remains. Ain't no real solution I say. So what do we do? I donno if you ask me. I don't have a fucking clue.
     I'm a positive person, MOSTLY. But things have their way of getting into my head and pissing me off. What got me to writing this particular blog is the negative feeling garnered after having talked to my best friend. Urgh, even best of friends can piss you crazy sometimes (no elaborations, ya'll know that just too well). I'd say you'll never understand how negative you can be if you've never truly been in love. The feeling of jealousy and possessiveness are really heightened when you're in love. Showing you in bare naked way how vulnerable truly you're and how easily hurt you can be... no matter how strong you pretend to be. The sweet pang of love have hurt us all in ways which we all now chose to ignore.


     I had drafted this blog post (I don't know for how long) and now I forgot the purpose and motivation behind as to why I was writing whatever I was writing (oh'crap)!!! *Thinking... still thinking!!!* How do I conclude the post now. I've no fucking clue as to what I was thinking while I was writing this blog post. But continue and deduce a conclusion I must.


     (Out of topic) Long time ago one friend had told me that we can barely trust ourselves, let alone others. She gave me an example. Ten years ago if I had asked her as to what her favorite color was, she'd have answered "Red." Years passed and now she'd pick "Blue." Point to be noted. How can you claim to have judged a person correctly when you can barely judge your own characters and choices. Similarly, I had a certain motive while I was writing this blog post. But instead of finishing it, I chose to draft it (such lazy bum I'm)!!! And now I've lost that original motive but found a new one. That is "you think whatever you have to think (good, bad or evil) at the present but know for sure that you'll feel something else later in the future. So cut yourself some slack and enjoy. You might be obsessed about that bitch who you hate so much now but in near future tables will turn; you'll prolly drown in passionate love with someone. And while in such good feelings and relations remind yourself that they might not last forever. So try to grab onto it and enjoy it while it lasts."
     The conclusion to the blog post might be completely different from the original idea but not any less intriguing; that our ideas will change, so will the people we choose to love. Motives will change, so will the choices we make. Nothing is permanent - Health, Wealth nor Beauty. Yes, everything is temporary - Troubles, Embarrassments, Pain. Grab onto the good bits and try to hold onto 'em. I leave you all with my favorite quote. And don't you all just read it. Think about it.

"Drink wine.

This is life eternal.

This is all youth will give you.

This is the season of roses, wine and drunken friends.

Be happy for this moment,

this moment is your life."

Indeed, THIS MOMENT IS YOUR LIFE.

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World always looks brighter from behind a smile!!!

     When walking home from the evening walk few days back, my best friend told me that he finds Chinese to be very friendly people despite the stereotype to the contrary (Currently I'm in China). I had to agree. Chinese are nice people – even though they tend to be loud and annoy the tip of my skull. But truth be told, I’v always found people friendly – wherever I go. The country, province or city seems to make no difference.

     It seems to me that the biggest variable is the observer himself. If you greet the world with a smile, the world will smile right on back. Of course, the opposite is also true. The energy that we put out into the world returns back to us in the same form. Because I am friendly with the people that I encounter (a big proud brag), they tend to reflect that same energy back at me. Kindness begets kindness, and smiles are contagious.

"The world is a mirror. Be the reflection that you want to see."
Did you smile today?

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Blind corners??? Seek a second opinion.

     Seeking a second opinion! Oh'well how hard can it be?

     While on a road, blind corners are everywhere. The roads are narrow and walls extend right out to meet the curb. It is inconvenient at best, deadly at worst. From the driver’s seat of a car there is just no way to see what is around the corner. The only help is a mirror on the other side of the intersection. If you look into the mirror, it is like you are standing in a different position. It is like you cross the road, and now have a clear view straight around the corner. This is the only way to see around blind corners. Looking from this different position makes the way forward obvious. In life, blind corners are everywhere. You are dealing with a problem or are faced with a challenge and you just can’t see the solution. You are blind to the solution because your perspective is limited by the position you are in. You can’t see the way forward because of who you are, what you believe and how you normally behave.
     Doubts mean don't. But in the times of doubt, its best for you to seek a second opinion just so you can plan your next step. Life - easy or hard - has its way of judging us. We are tossed, beaten and pushed to the blind corners of life; there, we all behave in the only way we can - by doubting ourselves. Such conditions are lethal... and hence we need to seek second opinion just so that we can resurrect and rejuvenate ourselves.
     And thank UNIVERSE that there are those who plays their part in re-kindling hope within us, thank UNIVERSE that there are those who honor the fire within us. Dear readers, we all have bright future; so bright that it burns my eye (Ewww!!! I just made it sound so tacky). Listen to those who believe in you. Meanwhile, bid adieu to those who don't (kick 'em out if you have to). Don't believe in me??? Oh'well seek a trustworthy second O!

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*Make thyself happy*

     Fuck grammar!!! For a change let's treat Happiness not like an adjective but like a noun. Yes, a noun. Let's treat it like an object we are supposed to chase after. Feelings (adjectives) are distorted, you can't exactly weigh emotions but objects (nouns) on the other hand are visible and hence approachable. I shall hereby repeat - 'nothing comes automatic (unless there is fairy god mother who's willingly waving her magical wand), so work towards what you want.'

• If you've people who are dictating your life and telling you that you can't do certain something, punch them (not literally) on the face and show them that you can. And in case you fail, hide yourself under the table for sometime. Trust me you are more resilient than you think.
• Let go of 'I don't care attitude.' Everybody cares about what the other people says. Why do we care? Dang, because they are people. So hold your calm and do what you gotta do. Things will get better.
• Okay, I understand you'd not go to the person and literally (like literally) express that you care about 'em but show that you care whichever way you can. You wouldn't want to die before 'em knowing how much they meant to you (Did I just say death, Oh!!! Dark subject).
• Let yourself be happy. Cut the crap and crappy people out of your life. Hold the close ones tight. Buy yourself things - your favorite chocolate, that dress you want, that gizmo you've been eying on, every this and that you want (Here's the catch - bargain if you can and try not to run out of your credit).
• Drink hot chocolate, indulge in alcohol (drive safe), get more sunshine, keep touch with friends, initiate a phone call (don't give excuses like "i was going to call you"), laugh, dance and Facebook (Life is simple).
• Read good books. Hate reading... then watch good movies. Go outside and travel. Try new foods and meet people. People are  perennial source of entertainment. Happy people makes you happy.
• Bitch about people you don't like (know who to bitch to or with). It does good to you when you let go and ventilate out the negativity. It makes more space for good. So bitch and let go.
• Ask for what you want: Subtle hints do not work! Strong hints do not work! Obvious hints do not work! So just say it!
• Stand up if you want to be seen. Speak up if you want to be heard.
• We are not standardized, processed sausages meant to look, taste and feel the same. Be glad that you are weird and different.
• Show that you are happy. Go and be sad when you have to. Express when you are angry.
• Remember, the things I wrote up there (and I was thinking and typing simultaneously) are just a reminder. We all know what to do. The real question is why don't we do it. And answer to that I don't know myself. But once in a while, all you need is a reminder. So, last in the list should be the reminder that we all deserve to feel good and be happy. If you love yourself and life that much, you'll have to work towards it.
• Before I go, I just want to say Fuck my List. Make your own and boogie your life away. After all, nobody knows you better than yourself (super chiché ) so, just follow your gut feeling. If your gut feeling fails you. Simple, follow the next gut feeling that follows. YAY!!!

P.S. When you make your list, do it in less than 5 minutes. Over thinking will lead you nowhere. Hasta luego.

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u just ve one LIFE. keep it simple.

     I haven't been blogging for a while now. There's just too much to write and talk 'bout. I want to write about the crazy nights I have had with my friends, my mini travels and this new book I am reading. All in all, I regret staying away from the blog.

• Lately, I've been out of touch with my blog buddies and I absolutely hate it.
• Lately, I've been partying a lot (my bone hurts).
• Lately, I've been struggling with trust in people who I thought I could count on (just so you know the trust in question is already restored).
• Lately, I've been missing Kathmandu.
• Lately, I've been doing much needed soul searching.
• Lately, winter is saying 'ello and I already miss summer warmth .
• Lately, I've been meeting new people and they inspired me topics to blog 'bout (which I'll do in few days time).

     This (lately) list can go on for ever. On to deeper issues now. Its amazing how our heart feels the strata of emotions. Given a right circumstance and push we all are capable of feeling divergent emotions. Past month I got to experience potpourri of emotions - Love, Hate, Anxiety, Agony, Happiness, Confusion, Doubts. And after all these potpourri of E's I deduce - its totally incapable for us to hold onto one particular emotion.
     I've always known (or convinced myself) that its near impossible to capture and hold onto one particular emotion to eternity. You love someone and sooner or later you fall out of it. You hate someone and soon enough you'll be guilt bound, forgiving. You miss someone and not so far in the future you'll recover (remember : out of sight = out of mind). The sad reality : sometimes people are replaceable. I am, at times, put off by this expletive; but other times pleased by its (life's) novelty. Sometimes we carry our emotions down our sleeves or get carried away. There are times we loose control and emotions take over. We argue, complain. But this necessarily isn't a bad thing. Arguing ventilates the anger within us. Bad is removed so that we can make more space for good. Complaining shows that we care. So whenever in bad situation remember good times ain't far away. Go crazy, banter ballistically, punch the wall, skip meals, throw tantrums but take a deep breath and remind yourself - this feeling shall pass. "Down comes the rain, up comes the sun" and sun always brings warmth and sunshine with it. So look forward to your (possibility) of happy ending.

• Lately, I've been really HAPPY. 
• Lately, I've been getting ample laugh.

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Thank God Its Today.

TGIT - Thank God Its Today.

TGIF - Thank God Its Friday.

     while googling, I stumbled upon this fabulous phrase (assuming I can call it a phrase) - "TGIT." As opposed to its popular cousin phrase TGIF, TGIT oozes positiveness. The most exciting part of your job or your life shouldn't be that the work week is coming to an end but instead the opposite. Many of us, including you and I, linger through life without the palpable excitement within us. Not that am suggesting you should quit whatever you are doing and follow the hunches to attain TGIT moment but you can always spice up your life by re-adjusting the small ignored parts of your life. How about taking a walk in the new park, trying new foods and books, trying to learn something new. Get creative and color the dull portions. Day by day, many of us do what we tolerate instead of pursuing what we love - because we are scared. We often forsake magnificence for mediocrity because we think it's safer. I know because I've been there. And c'mon get real, TGIF is nothing without us making some plans. We make an effort to do different things on Friday evening (say partying hard, trying THAT new restaurant, visiting friends). With such plans comes the chance to experience new things. Hence, the TGIF moment. How about making an effort to attain TGIT moment as well.

     So tomorrow morning, as you untangle your hands from the blanket's tight cocoon with nightmarish inefficiency, I wish you shout to yourself - THANK GOD ITS TODAY!!!

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Reason to Believe

     Feeling low. No worries ... Go to You Tube and start surfing some upbeat videos. Internet can inspire you in ways you can't just fathom. I just stumbled upon this super-duper kewl video which just gave me yet another reason to believe that world is indeed beautiful and full of beautiful people. When you adjust your perspective and allow yourself to embrace everything that is beautiful ... Universe responds and you get the best of everything there is. Enjoy the video (I bet you'll smile all along and prolly replay it).

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*million lil' ways to perceive things*

     Once in a while I love breaking rules just for the heck of it. Come to think of it truth / reality is just the point of view. Any given circumstance can be interpreted in different perspectives. And everyday, we're bombarded with zillion perspectives from media, family, friends, religion - seems like everyone is trying to define what reality is for each of us. And it is up to us to challenge those perspective and accept only the ones that resonate at the personal level.

     They say we believe what we see but in actuality it's the opposite. We see what we believe. So once in a while we need to take a short vacation from the life and re-define our perspective. The delusional perspective that presidents are more important than paupers is just silly. We're all important and our worth is intrinsic. Not that we don't know this already but its amusing to ponder how easily we chose to ignore the fact. Just the other day, one friend bare open one fresh perspective. According to him the world is one big boring place. If you're bored, it says very little about this grand magnificent and dynamic universe. On the other hand, it says a lot about you, your perspective, and your inability to participate in this dance of life. That elders are supposed to be respected - bare in mind, we don't respect age. We respect the knowledge that comes with it. And if the knowledge that comes with age is conservative and not modern parse - we should be able to voice our opinions.

     Rules are fun to break (think bunking classes, sneaking out of home, those balcony smoking sessions). And throughout the history of world, society has made some pretty outrageous rules (women in Nepal, for example, are obvious victims). Rules on religion have clearly crossed the boundaries. Religious rule made centuries ago still dominate the current society. And judging from society's track record, society lapses in the judgement continue through today. Simply put, faith and blind-faith - as we all know - are not exactly the same things. When religious rules take over humanity; its prolly time to re-define the religion or even change it if necessary. Let's not forget, religious books (be it Bible, Quran or Gita) were not handed down from god (however you chose to define god), they were written by mortal hands. So, if necessary, we should be able to question 'em.

     In conclusion, breaking shit is not only fun, but it’s also a necessary ingredient in a life well-lived. We need not ingest everything that society spews in our direction. We have the ability to contemplate perspectives and embody those that we enjoy and break the ones that we don’t. Remember rules around us are worth reconsidering sometimes. There are always million lil' or big ways to perceive things. Chose the one's which resonate well at the personal level.

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don't wear skinny JEANS if you don't have skinny GENES.

 fashion "dos" or fashion "how-tos"

     Let me start with a LOL to let all the fat people (who must be positively hating me for the title) know that I love you all. Okay, not in the ways how Romeo loved Juliet but I show certain affinity towards people who read my blog. Let me not beat around the bush and get it straight that I am not trying to get some fashion sense to the minds and lives of people who clearly are living-breathing stereotypical example of fashion faux-pas. Nor did I ever dream of becoming a fashion police, but we've seen those people who clearly are bit uneasy to an eye so much so that it hurts. And am not just talking about super fat people who wear skinny jeans with the weight that is literally worthy of O.M.G reaction, but all people who just don't get that whatever they are doing or wearing are clearly an act of a class clown. Some of you must be like "eew, Shailesh you are nasty and mean!!" Hello, am sure you aren't a saint yourself. How many of us have laughed at those people who audition for American Idol and X-Factor and clearly were derailed and delusional for doing so? How many of us have searched for funny videos on YouTube and laughed our ass off at somebody else's misery and accidents; eventually helping to spread those videos by sharing 'em on social tools like Twitter and Facebook? Listen blog buddies, we've all done it!! So, I know just right that you understood what I mean.  


     Sometimes I'm happy that Simon Cowell is there doing what he does best "whine about people." Because there are times he tells things to people which might bring them back to their normal senses and spare them the eventual heart break. What Simon Cowell tells them, to be honest, ought to be told to them by their mumsies in the first place. Following your heart is one thing but building a castle in the air without working our way to make a real one is not at all the dream chasing business. I encourage to chase after things you absolutely love but along the way understand the importance of the choice that has been silently bestowed upon us. The power to "quit at the right time" when its not too late.


     Somebody said world is your oyster and I'd say true that. There is absolutely too many things to see, to eat, to visit, to feel, to experience and new people to meet. Don't get stuck, don't get too comfortable with what you have. Love the things you do; meanwhile keep trying new things and rejuvenate. Who knows, prolly the new thing you'll pick up will pay you back handsomely. It sure does feel great to have CASH TO FLASH. Go to Bollywood/Hollywood to become an actor if you want to. But don't get too complacent and keep trying for 30 years only to realize one day that you could have been the greatest author. That'll be such a waste. Understand we've been told a lie time and often. TRY, TRY UNTIL YOU DIE ain't appropriate all the time it should instead be something like TRY, TRY UNTIL YOU QUIT. That's my point don't be stuck up. Use your body every which way you can before your body gives up on you and am not talking about sexual positions and flexibility. Go on a hiking trip, dance till you sweat bucket and the likes of such things. Change your hairstyle, your dressing sense time and again. You'd feel rejuvenated (trust me I might be a stuck up in many field but hair style... lets just say am a pro). Change how the furnitures are arranged in your room, try new restaurants, reach out to your neighbours and expand your horizons. We crave to feel alive but lemme tell you what I know with absolute certainty that noting comes automatic in life. We've to work to get things. Every push, every try will make a teenie weenie progress.


     So dontchu buy one pair of skinny jeans that looked real cool on Lindsy Lohan and get stuck with it forever. You and your body changes along the years, so change your style often not just to flatter others but yourself. And you must have realized that skinny jeans is just metaphorical in the post. It can be anything we've gotten too comfortable with over the years... look around you'll find ample things you don't need anymore in your life!! If possible replace 'em. Stay insanely happy *BIATCHES*

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the thing called life;)

     Sometimes, things just don't happen the way you want them to. No one is immune from hurt, from disappointment. We all have our lessons to learn, and often that is when we learn them best; Sometimes you just have to be the bigger person, even when you don't want to be; Sometimes you just have to swallow your pride and ask for help; Sometimes things just go wrong. Trains run late, the shop is out of the one thing you need, computers crash, keys and wallets get lost or stolen. It happens to everyone.

     Sometimes, people are just born with small minds and jealous hearts. There's not a lot you can do about it, except know that it's not about you; Sometimes, when we really want to say something nasty, we should say something nice instead. Honey attracts more flies than vinegar. It's easier to be negative, but so much nicer to put something positive out into the world. Don't be another grumpy person on the tube who never smiles.

     Sometimes we forget that people can't read our minds - only our actions; Sometimes it's just not your day. Or your week. Or your year. That doesn't mean that you can't make a fresh start, whenever you want; Sometimes you feel stuck, you feel as if things could have been much better - things shall pass and this phase surely will too.

     If I have any advice to share, it's don't wait. Don't wait to live your life. Don't wait until you lose weight, get a better job, move to a better area, get something published, meet someone. Start living now. Try to be happy within the context of where you are right at this moment. Learn to love the chilly days or the humid nights. Rejoice in crisp air or sun-warmed breezes. Drink hot chocolate, red wine and fruity minty iced teas, whatever the weather. Laugh. Listen to music you love as you travel to work. Dream and hope. Choose happiness. Choose to rise above.

(inspired from many schools of thought, and the piece you just read is an amalgamation of things n' thoughts I picked up from various sources, and that are worth being shared)
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looking without really seeing!!

live to love your life;)

     The tiny fragments of life. Those brief snapshots that transport us from maelstrom of everyday life and put us into a state of calm reflection, affording us a true sense of clarity. Even while we are surrounded by the usual facade of daily industry, it is always possible to separate ourselves away from the chaos, to notice the smaller details or merely to view things from a different perspective. It is thus important to pause and look at such tiny pieces of life, and remind ourselves that we can, sometimes, look without really seeing.
     It is in those placid moments of our life when you get the opportunity to reflect on ourselves and see how we've let ourselves get entangled into the banal and humdrum rules. How such and such rules are dictated to be followed and others not to be. And I am talking about going wild and killing people, but the mere rules of earthly day-to-day lives. It is thus, very ardent to rid yourself from such mundane affairs and to let go of inhibitions and indulge in guilty pleasures. Its hilarious how insanity helps to restore your sanity sometimes. Last night, my pals and I decided to go out for some casual drink. Ended up going to this bar with some live bands and man were they good..!! Just wish I had taped 'em to share their music with you guys. Anyways, we ordered some drinks, got high and sneaked out without paying a dime. Not so civil thing to do, I know, but haven't we all done something which challenges our civility once in a while. Got out and ended up in the public park and smoked 'something I ought not to mention here' and partied till the wee hours. I tried not to drink too much though. Just the last Wednesday, I just got high just on beers (don't ask how I got to that point!!). Had to puke all the way to my home. Word of advice don't take a cab when drunk. The speed and turns around the highway just makes it worse. As of now I feel really tired and intend to rest through the weekend after all that night trotting. But I'll take that as refueling myself to tackle the social and earthly humdrum of the following week. You may as well fulfill your social obligations during the weekdays but indulge yourself with what you love during the weekends.
     So, my blog buddies tell me what are the things you'd prefer to do during the span of your weekend?

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shit happens;)

     There are things the characters in movies would say that completely resonates with us. Despite the fact that those characters are experiencing completely different sets of situations, they speak to us in one way or the other.

     While watching 'Forrest Gump', there is one particular scene where character played by Tom Hanks is running coast to coast across the country and he says 'Shit Happens.' This might not be the most encouraging word that i picked but c'mon think about it!! How often do we get stuck with things that happened in past and over the things we have no control over? Letting go is just as important as eating and breathing. Yes, regretting comes natural to us and there is no way i am going to deny that, but let me just remind you that our perspective can be readjusted. The only kind of regretting we should be doing are on those things that we didn't do than on the things that we did.

     When you are brooding over your past or making elaborate and immaculate plans for the future, you are losing your present. Its not about what happened in the past. Its not about what can happen in the future. As clichéd as it may sound 'the time is now.' It does't matter what you can be. Nothing matters than the moment at hand. Take clues from the past and plan for the future and have fun while at it. And enjoy your life NOW.

Oh well!! its time for me to practice what i just preached;)

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